Sex is a part of a traveller’s
experience, even when you’re not having any. I’ll keep my ears open for
other people’s stories, but until then I figure I have one of six options
if I want to experience sex before I leave.
1. Casual sex with a foreigner
This is easy: put on a hot
dress, head to the tourist beach nightclubs in Baga or Anjuna and wait.
It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. The thing is, I was born in 1961 and
turned legal in the disco era – I’ve been there, done that and really,
there’s no adventure to it. It’s just tawdry.
2. Committed sex with a foreigner
This is trickier. He would
have to be a long-stay visitor like myself and be similarly interested
in a long-term, invested relationship. There would have to be enough chemistry
and compatibility to transcend our time in Goa. But I’m open to that. Richard
Branson, I await you.
3. Casual sex with a Goan
This is an issue of age as
well as culture. Indian men my age are married, have let themselves
go, and I don’t play with married men. A younger man is sweet, clean and
handsome but if his mother finds out, she’ll pull a few strings at the
immigration office and have me deported. Seriously.
4. Committed sex with a Goan
Since Indians my age are
married, my only choice would be someone older, like a widower. This would
be unworkable because I’m not into older men (I’ll have to get over that,
eventually).
5. Casual sex with a Westernized
Goan
He’s in Goa either because
he’s visiting friends, family and his ancestral home (see 3), or he’s cruising
tourist beach nightclubs (see 1). No thanks!
6. Committed sex with a Westernized
Goan
Like (2), this is a good
scenario, but difficult and requiring patience and investment. He either
lives here after having built a life elsewhere; or he is a long-stay visitor
who splits his time between Goa and his adopted country. France?
Spain? Switzerland? Another good possibility. |